Let us so live, that when we come to die, even the undertaker will be sorry

-Mark Twain


I’m going to be adding something new to this blog called Music Mondays. This is where I talk about a certain song or maybe even an album twice every month. If I have more time, I’ll try to do this every week. We’ll see though. Let’s begin!

A new song that just came out by the Yeah Yeah Yeahs. It’s been awhile since I’ve listened to them so it was great to hear something new from them.

I really dig the sound, everything about it is fresh. It also has a great beat. I really enjoyed the climax of the song where they inserted the choir in the background and then ending it off with them. It really drives the tone of the song. Great song overall!

The message throughout the song from my understanding is seeing beyond the faults of a person to whom you love. She falls “for a guy, who fell down from the sky”. This may give the listener the image of falling in love with someone who may not be good in the eyes of others or society. Regardless of that though, she still sees the “halo round his head”, she still sees the good in that person regardless of their faults and/or history. But society keeps pressing her that the person is no good to the point where they label the relationship as sacrilegious. You could say that she’s sleeping with a fallen angel, “feathers in a bed”, to keep in tie with the religious theme throughout the song. Then she’s given one final chance to get out of this relationship, “asked if I would try to leave this all behind… burnin’ in a bed”, but it’s clear that she doesn’t want to change for the world. She would rather die. She “pleads and prays” that the world see her view and just accept her views, but the world fights back until she cannot be heard no more.

Like if you agree and feel free to comment what you think!

February 23, 2013

Well it has been awhile since I’ve last posted. I know, and I am sorry. But don’t cry, I am back! For the most part I’ve been busy with school and life in general. But things are working out. I finally have a break to catch up with some of my friends and school work. And of course my blog! And so the story goes

For the most part this February I’ve been busy with school. Lots of reading to be done as well as studying and midterms coming up. Boring. I know!

Here’s where it gets a little interesting, in my opinion. Well, I’ve never really had success in relationships but then again I never pursued them. I made it my goal this year to strengthen my relationships with my friends and as well try to get to know  more women. I’ve finally felt that I am ready and responsible to be in a relationship and that it is time I start spreading my wings for the first time. As well, I’ve made it my goal to try to go out more often than usual and practice being more social. It’s not a strong point of mine I have to admit, but I’m optimistic it’ll all work out. Anyway, so my college was holding a speed dating event on Valentine’s Day. I knew that I wouldn’t have anybody that day, lucky me, so I decided to try my luck there even though I really didn’t mind coming up empty. It was something out of the blue for me and last minute so I wasn’t expecting much. I also saw it as a place to practice and gain some social skills, so at least I would learn something from it.

Anyway, so I get to the event. There was a lot of people. I was kinda nervous at first, but that subsided after awhile also due to the fact I had a little drink before it all started. So I went from table to table talking to each lady about their interests, learning something about them. Unfortunately the music was blasting so loud that it was hard to understand what they were saying so we literally had to yell at each other. Some of the girls were interesting. Unfortunately, some of the girls weren’t. This one girl was totally uninterested in me and was not at all nice. She didn’t even ask one single question! I was trying to ask her questions and not try to make things to hard, but she didn’t even say much. Didn’t even give me a chance. Oh well, I tried to be the better person I guess. Aside from that, there were two girls that were nice unfortunately they didn’t seem interested. Another day!

What I learned is that speed dating, even though it was my first time, is not really my thing, that is not yet. I learned that you should always have a bunch of questions set up to ask each girl so that you won’t be struggling to have a conversation with them. Also, within the time limit of two minutes it is hard know if that person is interesting enough.

I’m happy I did it and hope to do it again some time soon.

January 30, 2013

Well, it’s been a couple of days since the last post. I was just going through the motions, as normally everyone goes through. I feel much better now. I’m just lucky to have met the people who I know today and that they are there to help me out when things get tough. I haven’t given up on being nice to begin with. And so the story goes…

I must have mixed up being mean and having a backbone as the same thing when I was young. I always had the idea that in order to get what you want, you had to convey yourself in a way that I felt as mean or angry. I saw that to have dominance over others, you must use intimidation. I thought all of these negative emotions were necessary to get what you wanted. Obviously I was wrong!

Rarely I use anger or intimidation because I know how it feels to be on the receiving end. It ain’t fun to say the least. I don’t understand how a person could do such a thing, but then again, we can’t judge since we don’t know their past.

Where am I going with this? Well, my mother explained to me when I was about to get angry and explode was:

There’s always a better way of saying things.

I believe that to be genuinely true. I agree, it may be easier to get upset and blow off your head in order for people to hear you or to do things for you but it only works for the short-term in my opinion. It doesn’t build relationships, more like breaks them or puts your relationship in a negative light with others. There is always a better, nicer way of saying it. Instead of taking the easy route, I like to take the challenge.

Now the key to this I find is when you’re in the heat of the moment, you need to take a step back and try to find a way to become calm again so that you can look at the moment with unclouded judgment. If you may be fighting with someone, just walk away and say you’ll be back. Don’t run away though because that doesn’t solve anything, as much as you have the feeling to. It also gives the other party to take a time out as well, which benefits both you and the other person. Easier said than done, I know. Only with practice is all I recommend. I’m not saying you submit or make the other submit to either one’s solution, but there is always a middle ground or compromise.

If you’re genuine to every word you say, you can’t go wrong